College #Say What?

Hello all!!!

In our Online Bible Study, we were asked to share a #SayWhat? moment. For my friends, that are not part of the Proverbs 31 OBS, let me tell you what a #SayWhat? moment is. It is one of those times when God tells you to do something and you think Say What? or you ask God are you really asking me to do THAT? It's probably something completely out of your comfort zone, or something you think is impossible for you to do. Let me give you a couple of examples. I've known many missionaries to up and leave their families and what they know, to serve God in a foreign country.  I'm sure when God first told them that He wanted them to be missionaries to a far-away land they probably said "Say What?"  I also know more than one family who has adopted orphans from China, Russia, and Haiti, after their biological children were almost grown, because God told them to. Now don't you think they probably had some Say What? moments along the way? I image they did, but when it was all said and done, I know for a fact, that the children they adopted have brought them great joy and tremendous blessings they would have never received had they ignored the voice of God. Also there are souls that would not be joining us in heaven had these parents not listened to God's calling! WOW!!!

I could stop right there, but I haven't shared my story...As I was thinking about this, the very first Say What? that came to mind happened almost 30 years ago. I shoved it aside, thinking, "God, that happened so long ago, no one wants to hear about that."  Yet every time I thought about this blog, that SayWhat? moment is what came up. So when I sat down to write, and that same story was the ONLY one on my mind I knew it was the one I HAD to tell! So sit back as I get to share, and even reminisce about being a young girl in love!  :)

It was May 1984 and I was about to graduate from Putnam City West High School in Oklahoma City, OK. I was as happy as a girl could be! I had been dating Cecil, a young man from my church, since October 3rd, 1981. We were totally in love and planning on getting married the following summer. You see our relationship was so much more than just 2 teenagers in love. We started out as babies in the same church nursery. As I grew up Cecil was always there, at church.

The Kindergarten and 1st grade Sunday School
 Class at Hudson Avenue Baptist Church
 approximately 1970. Cecil and I
 are standing next to each other,
 in front of the teachers. I am the only girl
 standing and he is to the left of me.

This is a close-up of the same picture.

 As you can see Cecil and I

 are standing next to each other.

 He was in 1st grade. I was in Kindergarten.

 We never attended school together but we always went to church together. Except one short stent, when my dad's job moved us to Lawton, OK. When we moved back to OKC, we went right back to the same church. God kept us together all along the way. Even when a new church ( or mission as we called it) was started in Edmond, OK. Cecil's family began attending there and so did my family. Believe me, our families did NOT attend because the other was there! Each family was doing what God ask them to do. I love being able to look back and see how God orchestrated the whole thing! As Cecil and I became teenagers we saw the value in getting to know each other and becoming friends. We were best friends, even before we started dating. We went through some horrible things together, the death of a member of our youth group, best friends moving away, the death of my grandmother and many other life changing moments. We went through some great celebrations too! Our mission was formed into a self-supporting church! We were charter members. We helped build the first church building! I remember when some of Cecil's nieces and nephews were born, and Cecil was there to celebrate with my family when my brother was born, almost 17 years after me! Crazy huh?!? Yes, there were other friends, but we were constant in each other’s lives. Always able to count on each other during the good and the bad. Once we came to the point that we knew we were in love and could tell each other, we knew there was no turning back, EVER!

So, I graduated High School with plans of attending college right there in town. Actually in Edmond, the very town that Cecil lived and worked in. How perfect could that be? Here was the deal, all my friends had already done the prep work to go the college they wanted to, but I hadn't. What was wrong with me? Well... I was getting to go to England, Ireland, and Scotland in July of '84, I was doing a lot of planning for that...but that wasn't it. There began to be a nagging in my heart that I wasn't supposed to go to the college in Edmond. God was saying, "Angie, I want you to go to IBC (The Independent Baptist College) in Dallas, TX."  At first I didn't even Say What? I out right said NO! That is NOT what you're saying! But that voice got a little louder and more persistent until I did, "Say What? God, Surely you are not asking me to move 200 miles away from my family and especially asking me to move 200 miles away from Cecil. To go to some Bible College that has less than 1,000 students to take Bible Classes for a year? Really? God, I can't do that! I can't drive in Dallas! I don't know anybody...ok, I might know one person...but God, my family is going to think I'm crazy when I tell them that YOU want me to do this!" I am telling you ALL of those thoughts went through my head! Satan really had me thinking that my family and Cecil would laugh at me and think I was crazy for doing something that God wanted me to do. I grew up in a Christian home! My momma lead me to Jesus! My daddy was the song leader at church and a great Christian daddy! They understood what it was like for God to ask them to do something and to step out in faith! But Satan can have you thinking crazy things! Honestly, I don't remember when I told them, whether it was before I went to England or after. I'm thinking it must have been before, because I remember having a peaceful trip. But when I told them, all of them, even Cecil they all said " If this is what God wants from you, then you have to do it!" What a burden lifted, to know that my family and my future husband supported me!

I believe it was the 2nd Sunday in August 1984, right after Sunday morning services we headed to Dallas.  My mom, dad, younger sister (then about to start her Junior year in HS), my baby brother (then about 23 months old), all got in one car, packed with as much of my stuff as they could carry.  The other car on its way to Dallas was a little '79 Nova whose trunk was about to explode and the driver couldn’t see out the back window for all the clothes hanging on the rack across the back seat. But that didn't seem to matter much, because I spent most of the 4 hour drive crying and repeating, "I don't want to do this...but I need to, because this is what God wants me to do. I can't do this...but I have to do what God has called me to do."  While Cecil would say "I know honey, It's going to be ok." It was the hardest decision I had ever made! So with great fear, but great confidence in God, we pulled in to the parking lot of the dorms of the Independent Baptist College in Dallas, TX.

My Family the evening we arrived at IBC. Left to Right, Me, My mom (Beckie), My Dad (Bill, in back), My sister (Becky) and my little brother (Billy, in front)

That evening began an unbelievable adventure in my life! I had NO idea what God was about to do that would forever change the path of my life, and it was all due to one decision, one act of obedience towards God, and for this 18 year old girl, it was RADICAL OBEDIENCE!!!

For the next 9 months I lived in a "dorm" with 3 other girls.  Actually, we lived in a 2 bedroom, 2 bathroom apartment. It really wasn't too bad for 4 single girls in college. We had a small living room, kitchen and dinette too.  We even had walk-in closets, and everything was fully furnished for us. When I moved in, I had never met the girls that were to become 3 of my very best friends. In fact, the one I shared a room with, her name is Areletta, to this day is someone I consider one of my closest friends. I had no idea what God was setting up for me before I got there, but I soon discovered that there were at least 3 girls also at the college who I had known from church camp.  There was something unique about this college and that was, it was a mission project of the Trinity Temple Baptist Church. Trinity Temple oversaw its daily function, but many other churches financially supported it. While I attended IBC I also attended Trinity Temple. There were many members of the church whom I had also known from church camp, or for one reason or another had met before. God blessed me in 2 very special ways when he sent me to Dallas. Honestly, I probably didn't appreciate them the way I do now. The pastor of Trinity Temple had been my pastor in OKC from the time I was born, until I was 10. So I already knew him, his wife and his daughter, Rebecca, who happened to be my age and attending IBC also. In fact Rebecca was also in the church nursery with Cecil and I. She ended up being one of my bridesmaids in my wedding. The other special blessing was the fact that Cecil's older brother, Tiger and his wife Anne and (at the time) their only child, Rachel lived only a few miles from me. Tiger was also attending IBC.

Even though I had many friends around and I made many new friends, I was terribly homesick. I tried not to show it too much, because I knew it was much worse for Cecil. He wasn't experiencing all the new things I was. He wasn't swamped with assignments and working a new job. He was simply going to work and going home each day, or going to my parents’ house after work, because he missed me so much. Well, we made it through September and almost through October when Cecil's brother called him... You see in 1984 the housing market was booming and Tiger was making a living hanging wallpaper in new houses all over the metroplex. He had more work than he could handle. So that call was to ask Cecil to come to Dallas and go to work hanging wallpaper with his brother. Wow!!! This was our chance to be back together!!! But when we talked about it, we both agreed we didn't want him moving to Dallas if it wasn't what God wanted for him. Do you know how hard it is to make that sort of decision, when it is what you want so bad. But we both prayed, and truly felt a peace from God. So, in November of 1984 Cecil moved to Dallas. He lived with his brother and sister-in-law until May of 1985, when he got a job with Sewell Village Cadillac and was able to get an apartment for us.

Then, just as we had planned, we were married July 19, 1985, in Edmond, OK. After our honeymoon, we came back to Dallas. We have lived in the metroplex ever since.

Our Wedding Day

July 19, 1985

There is one thing I know for sure. That is had I not followed God almost 30 years ago in radical obedience, even after my #SayWhat? moment, I would not be where I am today.

I want to share one verse of scripture that was a favorite of mine back when I was 18 and going through these SayWhat times, and I still love it today!

Psalm 37:4 (ESV) Delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart.

My Family-Clockwise starting with me,

Colton my middle child-23,

Hunter my oldest-24,

Stephanie my youngest-20,

Cecil my husband of 28 years!

Living in Grace,

Angie